Updated: 2021, May 22

These 5 Tantra Tips Will Enliven Your Body Before Sex

In today’s modern society so many people have been living in their bodies disconnected from their true authentic self. Their desires and pleasures are forgotten and it makes them more separate from others.

These 5 Tantra Tips Will Enliven Your Body Before Sex

We live in a society of constant rushing, and ‘to-do-lists.’ Most people are running through their everyday tasks, obligations, meetings, life experiences and life without a sense of truly feeling and living.

Most of us starving for love.
Craving to be loved.
Wanting to be understood.

Searching for something more that can fill us up to finally be happy.

And in the end, we become more dissatisfied than ever. We lose control of our thoughts, connection with true desires, our body and eventually with others.

We become robotic. We find ourselves doing things from habit, not from our heart.

Come with me on a quick journey. A journey of self-discovery and self-love. A journey where I will teach how to become more conscious, aware of what’s going on with your thoughts and your body.

How to raise your energetic vibration and learn to accept, love and cherish your true self and your body.

Our Body Is A Temple

It shows us exactly what it requires to work its optimum health and vibration to create, not just exist. We need to learn to listen and do it actively. When we are in pain, there is a reason for that.

Try not to stay and explore the pain. Not to escape, suppress the emotion just listen and go through it. Once you experience the pain, face, embrace and learn to love it.

It will become a pleasure. Actively listening to your body will increase your awareness of yourself, the world and become more sensitive, sensual and humble towards your own and others needs.

Reaching this conscious state will help you live in the present, instead of the future or the past. Once you become present and aware of your body’s reaction, wants, passions you will understand your needs.

Your energetic vibration will increase, and you will feel more alive, enlightenment with yourself and the world. You will start to vibrate in a much higher state, the state of love. We only can attract energies that we already have.

We all made of energies. The universe has its energetical laws, and if we learn to master our bodies energetic level implemented with the universal rules, we will become radiant and unstoppable.

Understanding and applying this active self-healing way will help you have more fabulous self-esteem and sex life with yourself and your partner.

Healing, being energetically enlightened and loving yourself is crucial to able to have a great sex life.

How do you get more into your energetic body before sex?

By practicing these tantra tips. Tantra will teach you how to get out of your head back into your body. Accept your body with all your flaws. See the beauty within and around.

Slow Down

When you been out in the real world having great sex with your partner just seems so far away.

Here are my top 5 tantra tips on how to get enlightenment energetically with your partner before having sex.

The awakening of your senses will help you connect in a much deeper and more intimate level.

1. Slow Down

Now you are safe. You can relax and let go of all the worries and anxiety of the day. No need to rush, anywhere or to do anything. No need to think at all. Just sit here and slow down your mind.

Sit and turn to your partner. Make an eye-contact with them. Gaze into their eyes. Open your soul to their presence. Start to feel their energetic body. Their vibration and presence being here with you right now.

2. Breath Deeply

Take a deep breath through your nose. Hold it in for a second then press the air out through your mouth. Make a sound of an: “Ahh.”

The sound of “Ahhh” in tantric rituals the sound of a heart-opening. This will help you arrive at the present moment and open your heart.

Sit down (with your partner) facing each other and take ten deep breathing as described earlier. If any unwanted thoughts come, just notice them. Don’t judge them, just let them go as they arrived. Focus on your breathing. Continue until you feel present and totally relaxed.

Sync your breath with your partner. This method will help you both feel more connected, aware of each other and fill you up with gratitude and love.

3. Put Some Music On

Put Some Music On

Music has a healing quality. Pick a song or CD you both like. Listening to some chill-out or meditative music can help your minds to arrive. You can do a short guided visualization or meditation together.

Follow the waves of music and imagine being in your favorite place. Let your mind wander off places your sensuality; desires lead you. Peace and love will guide you.

4. Movement

Moving your bodies will shake up your dead energies.

It can be dancing, hugging, touching. Imitate kissing and not kissing. Flirt with one another. Build a playful, sensual body excitement by this push and pull effect.

Touch the arm of your lover by accident then pull your hands away, then touch them again. This will bring a spark of excitement into your physical connection.

You can stand up or while sitting can start dancing around one other’s body. Giving space or hold one other tight. Feel the warm pulsation and sexual arousal of the other. Getting physically close with your lover will naturally start energizing your male and female energy.

Be aware of how your partner’s touch makes you feel. If you would like him or her to touch you softer or grab you harder? Talk to them with words and with your body. There is no shame asking and following your desires. It will bring more intimacy and depth within your ritual together.

5. Massage


Caressing your partner’s body from the top-to-toe will encourage them to relax and awaken into their sexuality. Binding you physically, emotionally and energetically into one.

Increasing this sensation, you can do a partial body or a full body-to-body massage using warm natural oil.

Warm-up your hands and spread the oil on your partner’s chest all the way to their sacred spots. Leave your instinct guide you. Mix up your touches from full hand to soft fingertip touches. You can use your whole body, a feather, silk scarf – only your fantasy limits.

A well-performed yoni or lingam massage which is also known as tantra massage will accommodate to awaken the female and male energies. Creating rebounding sensual experience where you can learn to give and receive without expectation. You can finish with an intimate massage or move to intercourse.

Remember sex ‘energetically’ had already started at the very moment when you sat down and looked into each one other’s eyes.

Follow all five tantric ritual steps to have a more awakened sexual life. Awaken the beautiful god/goddess within your body and soul. Tantra will teach you to get out of your head into your body. Learning to master your body will raise your energetic vibration, sensuality and extended your level of pleasure.

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Once you practice this few step, you can have an extended body orgasm – orgasm not just for seconds – for hours without the usual releasing- tiredness effect.

You will be able to live a more authentic fulfilling life and attract the right people and partners into your life.

Re-learn the learned sexual suppressing behaviors and return to your true self with tantra!

Good vibes only 🙂

Love & Light

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Alexandra is a Sex Educator (Sexpert), hypnotherapist, confidence and intimacy coach and real life (sexual) adventures. She is known fo

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