Updated: 2019, Jul 24

3 Ways To Boost Your Body Image And Sex Life

By - Reviewed by CHD Team
Improve Your Body Image and Increase Your Sexual Satisfaction

It’s nearly impossible to enjoy any experience if you are unable to focus on what is going on at the moment. When your thoughts are elsewhere, you are not present to notice and feel what is happening. And when your thoughts are negative or self-critical, you will not only feel removed from experience but will also feel self-conscious, insecure and unhappy.

This is especially true when it comes to sexual experiences, where we vulnerably give of ourselves with our bodies. We express our feelings and thoughts to our lovers with our bodies. Pervasive negative thoughts about your body, appearance or sexual functioning will keep you from enjoying the experience. You become totally distracted and unable to pay attention to what is happening at the moment.

You are too busy thinking about your flabby stomach or your cellulite to feel your partner’s loving touch. You are too focused on whether he sees your imperfections to notice his scent. And, you are too worried about your sexual attractiveness to see that he is totally turned on by you!

Instead of getting swept up in the passion of the moment and surrendering to your senses, you are hyper-focused on your own self. You are unable to experience your own desire, enjoy the sensation of arousal and may not surrender to the wave of orgasm.

In those moments, you are missing out on two important things; you are denying yourself the physical sensation of pleasure and you are missing out on an emotional and sexual connection with your partner. Combined, these two detractions are a major barrier to sexual satisfaction.

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Poor Body Image is a Major Barrier to Sexual Satisfaction

This is more than just common sense. Numerous studies have shown this to be true as well. Conclusions have been determined that women who suffer from aspects of body image, weight issues, thoughts about the body during sexual activity and sexual attractiveness experience low sexual satisfaction.

On the contrary, “sexual satisfaction was predicted by high body esteem and a low occurrence of appearance-based distracting thoughts during sexual activity.”

Simple Suggestions For Improving Body Image And Sexual Satisfaction

The only thing holding you back from enjoying a more fulfilling sex life is you! That is the good news, because rather than waiting for someone or something else to change before you feel better—the power rests in your own hands. You can actually do something about this and start enjoying a more rewarding sex life rather quickly.

Improving Body Image

1. Remember He Doesn’t See You The Way You Do

While you may be hung up on your thighs or your breast size… he only sees your magnificent body. Catch yourself wondering if he sees your imperfections and replaces those thoughts with this truth. Never complain to him about your body—that is NOT sexy. Instead, complain to your mom, your friend or your trainer and then DO something about it. But do NOT force him to see you the way YOU see you! Just let him enjoy the visual feast in front of him!

2. Develop Body Love

Women are so hard on themselves and can be extremely self-critical. Rather than focusing on what you DON’T like about your body, choose to shift your focus on what you DO like. There will always be parts of yourself, physical or otherwise, that you may not love and that need a little improvement. But you must always accept those parts first and then lovingly work to improve them.

Where your focus goes, grows. To actively work to shift your focus to the parts of your body that you DO like and feel proud of, and then accentuate those parts. You will start to feel the difference immediately.

3. Move More and Take Care Of Your Body

Sex is physical. We use our bodies to express our thoughts and feelings to our partners. The best way to feel confident in that physical movement is to improve the physical connection you have with your body.

Engage in more physical activity; work out, dance, go on vigorous walks, hike or play a sport.

In this movement, you are cultivating a relationship and connection with your body. You are learning how you move, what you are capable of and what feels good.

You are proving you can take good care of yourself, getting in better shape and are releasing neurotransmitters; the same ‘feel-good’ chemicals that are released during sex.

Sex is Physical

As with nearly everything in your life, changing your sexual satisfaction begins with you. You are single-handedly able to improve the quality of your sex life by improving the relationship you have with your body. This is the one body you have in this life—being at war with yourself doesn’t serve you in any way.

There will always be parts that you don’t totally love, but focusing on those parts will get you nowhere. Focus on what you do love, accept those parts that you don’t and in the meantime, do what you can to improve them.

Enjoying your own body more means being able to let go of the distracting thoughts of your insecurities and self-loathing. And that means more presence at the moment both in and out of the bedroom.

Pujols Y, Meston CM, and Seal BN. The association between sexual satisfaction and body image in women. J Sex Med 2010;7:905–916.

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Hilary Silver

Hilary Silver is a Master Women's Empowerment Coach and Relationship Expert. She is the creator of lifestyle brand Hot, Healthy & Happi

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