The long wait is over. The baby is here, and those sometimes awful 9 months are finally over. What follows for future mothers?
Life after Becoming a Mom
The moment the baby comes out, mothers feel relieved, and rightfully so. The past 9 months seemed a lot longer, but they are finally over, and now, the joy and the excitement can take over. There is no mother that is not happy after giving birth. Life is now completely different, as priorities change. Taking care of the baby is No. 1 priority, and that will not change for a while. Every mother goes through the same process. Motherhood is unique in so many ways, but most importantly, the bond that creates with the child. Hormones surge through the body, emotions flow, and mothers feel like they have achieved something extraordinary.
Get Rid of Postpartum Aches and Pains
Pain doesn’t just go away once the baby is born. All those aches and pains all over the body, need special treatment once the baby is born. Usually, discomfort lasts several days, and painkillers can help reduce it. As the uterus contracts and reverts back to original size, abdominal aches may occur. They will last for a week at least, and painkillers are recommended again. Breast became huge, and that may cause pain sometimes. The best way to deal is to let the baby completely drain the milk. Ice pads can ease the pain. Bleeding lasts for a while, sometimes several weeks after birth. Mothers should use pads and panty liners. The hardest pain mothers feel after birth is in their vagina. Hence, during this period, it is recommended to put ice pads several times a day, and if mothers have problems with sitting, a pillow can be a good seat. Pain in the back is another problem, sometimes lasting for few months. Mothers that experienced back pain during pregnancy are more likely to feel it after childbirth. Walking is one type of exercise that is recommended.
Sex after Becoming Mom
As responsibilities kick in, there is less and less time for sex. Additionally, mothers tend to feel not wanted after their childbirth, as their belly is still big, and they are overweight. What helps in getting the fire for sex after pregnancy, is relaxation. Once mothers embrace their new self, and feel comfortable, the sex drive comes back. Another key component is to get help. There is no need for mothers to do everything that will leave them tired and fatigue and with less desire for sex. Change of scenery is sometimes all it takes. Partners should try to spice things up in any way possible. For example, a weekend getaway is a nice option. Mothers should initiate sex, as fathers usually try to be patient, and it is mother’s “job” to spark the fire again.
Sometimes, the cause of lost sex drive can be located to hormones. In these cases, women should contact their physician.
Beauty after Childbirth
Taking care of the baby can be exhausting. However, mothers should still try to find time to get their beauty and confidence back. Here are some ways.
First order of business is getting the nails done. Sometimes, this may require calling a friend, mother, sister, aunt to keep the baby safe for few hours. Caftans are excellent choice for sexy, yet lose clothes. The hair is next on the priority list. Same as nails, hair is one of the elements that make women feel sexy and feminine. Getting the hair done is essential for getting the confidence back. Last but not least, makeup. Not much make up is needed, just a little, subtle touches.
Diet and Nutrition
After delivery, mothers usually rush to get their weight back to normal. That is the first mistake they make. There is no need for rushing. It is important to keep eating healthy, as breastfeeding requires lots of nutrients. The body needs time to recover from labor, and starting a diet causes shock. Six weeks is the minimum before mothers can start thinking about diet. Most of the food mothers consumed during their pregnancy is still recommended. Likewise, mothers should try to keep their food as simple as possible. Wasting time on preparation leads to less time for rest and the baby. Fresh fruit, yogurt, raw vegetables, cereals and seeds are some of the recommended quick, yet quality snacks. Many women lose iron while pregnancy and recovering it is hard. Sometimes, even supplements are required.
After the first two months, moms can start exercising. Variety and diversity is the key to healthy food diet, providing both the mother and her baby with the appropriate nutrients. Mothers should avoid saturated and trans fats, and should focus more on mono fats (olive oil, fatty fish, nuts, seeds, olives, canola oil).
Life changes completely with childbirth. This can often lead to depression. Mothers need to adjust to a new lifestyle. There is no more time for hanging with friends, and taking care of the baby can be exhausting. Additionally, if the partner is not helpful, mothers feel they are alone.Postpartum depression can take longer than few weeks. Some of the symptoms of postpartum depression are extreme fatigue, insomnia, eating problems, feeling of panic, and feeling of failure as a mother, lack of desire for taking care of themselves, memory problems, and obsessive-compulsive behavior.
Sometimes, doctors recommend antidepressants, but in most cases, the best treatment is embracing the new way of life. Seeking help from the partner first and foremost is crucial. Next on the line are friends and family, or anyone else that makes them happy. Going for a walk is another good option.
Timeline (What to Do and When)
Once pregnancy is over, recovery starts. What mothers can do depends on lots of factors, but the timeline is fairly similar.
- Week 1 – Physically mothers are exhausted and sore. Breasts start to produce colostrums (milk), which causes pain. The pain in the breasts can be diminished with ice. Hormones are causing emotional wreck. The first week is when everything starts adjusting to the new lifestyle.
- Week 2 – Soreness is lessened, but mothers still are not comfortable. The uterus shrinks. Mothers should now sleep when their baby sleeps. Emotions start to settle, and mothers are more rational.
- Week 3 – Mothers can now start driving, as they feel more comfortable and there is no more fatigue. Breasts are now pain-free. Baby blues also have already passed, but sleeping is still cause of concern.
- Week 4 – Things are getting back to normal. The first cycle might hit in during this period as well with mothers who are using bottle for feeding the baby. Enjoyment in the baby is greater, and smiles appear on the mother’s face now.
- Week 5 – Aches and pain diminish. Mothers lose weight, and can now start exercising, even though it is recommended to wait one more week. Dads are now fully ready to take over some of the responsibilities, and mothers can enjoy a day off out on fresh air.
- Week 6 – Time for sex. It is now safe, and sex can be regular activity again. The same goes to exercise as well. Babies now sleep between 5 and 6 hours, leaving mothers more time for rest as well.