The answer to the question may seem obvious… But there really are more factors to getting pregnant than just doing the deed.
Accordingly, some couples will pull out all the stops and try to have sex every day in their fertility cycle. They just don’t want to take a chance of missing ovulation.
While this works for some couples, if it takes you longer than a month or two to get pregnant, this sex regimen can get you tired of sex awfully fast. And, it’s really not necessary.
As stated, there are two methods for timing sex for pregnancy – Rachel Gurevich – a Fertility Expert notes the following two methods:
“Spread the Wealth” – she writes – trying to detect and track ovulation can be stressful for many women.
Some women just can’t cope with checking their temperature every morning, peeing on ovulation detection strips, examining their spit for ferning patterns or checking their cervical mucus for fertile signs.
While some women feel empowered by tracking ovulation, others just feel anxious and overwhelmed by it all.
For the overwhelmed women, the spread the wealth method is probably the best.
Instead of timing sex for ovulation, you should have sex frequently every week.
You’re bound to have sex at least once during your fertile window with this method.
If this sounds like the plan for you, you should aim to have sex at least three or four times a week throughout your cycle. About every other day.
“Ready Aim Fire” – she says that if you’re into detecting ovulation and you’d like to focus your sexual efforts on your most fertile time, the ready, aim, fire method is for you.
If sperm counts are normal or healthy, as far as you are aware, then it’s best to have sex every day…
- You have fertile cervical mucus
- A positive ovulation detecting test
- A positive saliva ferning test
If you chart your basal body temperature. If your cycles are regular… this means you should know the approximate day you ovulate each month.
In this case, you should have sex for the three days before you expect to ovulate and possible on the day you expect to ovulate too.
According to the Mayo Clinic, conception is based on an intricate series of events. Every month, hormones from your pituitary gland stimulate your ovaries to release an egg (ovulate). Once the egg is released, it travels to one of the fallopian tubes. If you want to conceive, the days leading up to ovulation are the time.
Follow these steps to gauge when your ovulating –
- Keep An Eye On The Calendar. For several months, use a calendar to mark the day your period begins – the first day of each menstrual cycle. Ovulation often happens around day 14 of a menstrual cycle, although the exact timing might vary among women or even from month to month. Looking for patterns can help you plan.
- Watch For Changes in Cervical Mucus. Just before ovulation, you might notice an increase in clear, slippery vaginal discharge – if you look for it. These secretions typically resemble raw egg whites. After ovulation, when the odds of becoming pregnant are slim, the discharge will become cloudy and thick or disappear entirely.
- Track Your Basal Body Temperature. Ovulation can cause a slight increase in basal body temperature – your temperature when you’re fully at rest. To monitor your basal body temperature, use a thermometer specifically designed to measure basal body temperature. Take your temperature every morning before you get out of bed and plot the readings on graph paper or in a spreadsheet. Eventually, a pattern might emerge. You’ll be most fertile during the two to three days before your temperature rises. The increase will be subtle…. typically less than 1 degree fahrenheit.
- Try An Ovulation Predictor Kit. Over the counter ovulation kits test your urine for the surge in hormones that takes place before ovulation. Ovulation kits can identify the most likely time of ovulation or even provide a signal before ovulation actually happens. For the most accurate results, carefully follow the instructions on the label.
In order to maximize fertility, the Mayo Clinic also recommends the following:
- Do Have Sex Regularly. If you consistently have sex two or three times per week, you’re almost certain to hit a fertile period at some point. For healthy couples who want to conceive, there’s no such thing as too much sex. For many couples, this might be all it takes.
- Do Have Sex Once A Dear Near The Time Of Ovulation. Daily intercourse during the days leading up to ovulation might increase the odds of conception. Although your partner’s sperm concentration is likely to drop slightly each time you have sex, the reduction isn’t usually an issue for healthy men.
- Do Make Healthy Lifestyle Choices.
Maintain a healthy weight, include moderate physical activity in your daily routine, eat a healthy diet, limit caffeine and manage stress. The same good habits will serve you and your baby well during pregnancy.
- Do Consider Preconception Planning. Your healthcare provider can assess your overall health and help you identify lifestyle changes that might improve your chances of a healthy pregnancy. Preconceptions planning is especially helpful if you or your partner has any health issues.
- Do Take Your Vitamins. Folic acid plays an essential role in a baby’s development. A daily prenatal vitamin or folic acid supplement beginning a few months before conception significantly reduces the risk of spina bifida and other neural tube defects.
Furthermore, according to a recent study conducted at Indiana University reveals confirmation that the suspicion that sex throughout the menstrual cycle increases the chance of conception.
“It’s a common recommendation that partners trying to have a baby should engage in regular intercourse to increase the woman’s chances of getting pregnant – even during so called ‘non-fertile’ periods – although it’s unclear how this works,” says Dr. Tierney Lorenz in a statement for IFLScience (dot com). Lorenz is the lead author of two papers released in the past month showing that this advice has substance.
Sperm, and the fertilized egg, run the risk of being rejected by the mother’s immune system as foreign objects, so it makes evolutionary sense that there might be a trigger to make the body’s defenses less hyper-alert when pregnancy is a possibility.
As part of the the Kinsey Institute’s Women, Immunity and Sexual Health study, Lorenz tested biomarkers in two groups of women, half of whom were sexually active, throughout their menstrual cycle.
“We’re actually seeing the immune system responding to a social behavior: sexual activity,” Lorenz stated. “The sexually active women’s immune systems were preparing in advance to the mere possibility of pregnancy.
So, the story goes – Have Sex, Get Pregnant.
If you are having troubles conceiving after a three to six month period, it is recommended to visit your doctor and perhaps a specialist. Your partner should consider visiting along with you while it may not always be the woman’s immune system, but rather a low sperm count or other factors in the man’s sexual health.