It’s difficult to know what Men really think about Menopause because, well, first of all, I’m not a man. Secondly, I haven’t been through menopause yet so I don’t even know what women think about menopausal periods. During Menopausal periods the level of hormone estrogen and progesterone does not increase* in a regular pattern hence they are irregular. Also, the periods may be longer, heavier or lighter. But the truth is. … there are tips available for the age group described here – those in a relationship with someone going through menopause or those going through it, looking for another perspective and trying to learn how to handle yourself for your partner.
Guys – it’s a difficult process for women to go through in the first place, try to be understanding:
Know what to Expect – first of all, know that some women don’t really experience menopausal symptoms on the surface, but most experience varying degrees of the following:
Mood Swings – Some of the emotional changes that a woman experiences include fatigue, difficulty concentrating, irritability, lack of motivation, feelings of sadness, anxiety, aggressiveness, and other mood changes and tensions.
Depression – There are three types of depression a woman might experience during menopause, including a) depressed mood, b) depression as a symptom, c) clinical depression. Take note that all three, no matter to what degree is serious. If you or your loved one are experiencing symptoms including suicidal thoughts, consult your doctor right away.
Night Sweats and Hot Flashes – Because estrogen levels are all out of whack during menopause, it’s not uncommon for women to experience night sweats, and hot flashes. Be aware of these hormonal changes and discuss them with your doctor (if you’re the partner, discuss how important it is with your partner. Night sweats and/or hot flashes can be linked with high cholesterol and coronary heart disease.
Disrupted Sleep – These symptoms can vary for any reason from the night sweats previously discussed to more serious conditions such as sleep apnea and/or depression and anxiety.
Vaginal Dryness – Ladies, you may not want to indulge in sexual activity for quite some time and this is completely okay. And it’s normal.
Hormone Levels Drop – Be aware that changing hormone levels cause different symptoms. You can talk to your doctor about hormone replacement therapies.
Don’t take it Personally – Remember that whatever your partner says, while seemingly directed toward you, may not be about you at all. Your wife/girlfriend is just as uncomfortable with herself and her own frustrations as you are, if not more. Try to keep in mind that this will all eventually pass.
Share your Feelings – While it’s important for you to be supportive to your loved one, it’s also important to let her know if she is affecting you negatively. Be specific. You need to be understanding, but you don’t have to silently take abuse.
Know when it’s Serious – Especially in relation to depression – get your partner to the doctor right away. Depression can be a seriously debilitating condition and might get better without intervention.
Seek help if you Need It – If you are finding yourself overly emotional or drained in regard to your partner’s menopausal symptoms, it couldn’t hurt to get some professional help, too.
Stay Optimistic – Remember, this too will pass. You will get your partner back and she will want to have sex again.
Look, here’s the rest of the nitty gritty fellas
This is all a natural biological process and it needs to be recognized as a sensitive time in your partner’s life. Menopause typically begins and ends within five years around age 50. However this can be a lot longer for some women and it’s just too difficult to tell how long it will last. Many women find themselves on hormone treatments from anywhere between 2-5 years, and some women may require treatment beyond the five year mark.
So ladies too, share your feelings with your partner, let him know what you’re experiencing. Perhaps it couldn’t hurt to keep a journal of your symptoms and share them with your partner so he can experience them with you.
For the most part, guys are just as confused about your menopausal periods, and periods in general for that matter, as we are, ladies. Guys are also just as concerned as you are about your symptoms or other negative responses you’re having to menopause. Some ladies may not be aware of the effect of menopausal periods and the reactions, hence may not be able to relate well with their partners. Therefore, it might affect the relationship in a negative way. Be sure to lighten up on you man, he’s putting up with a lot from you during this trying time.
As always, talk to a doctor if your symptoms aren’t improving*, and I mean a psychotherapist of some kind – ask your partner to join you, it could help to alleviate problems in your relationship and other biological factors too.