During the “change of life,” women begin to wonder what is going to happen to their sex lives. Men are considered sexual objects well into their advanced age, however, women are deemed “over the hill.” Physicians and medical authors tell women to keep a good attitude, or they remind us that we can’t get pregnant, or we should try advanced hormone therapy options. In fact, many women go right through menopause, as if it were only a slight inconvenience. But others, experience sexual difficulties, making it hard to discuss, much less to find validation for what they are going through.
Loss of Libido
It is reported that women’s sexual effectiveness and the enjoyment of penetration, generally peaks in our forties. It is true for both men and women that the intensity and quality of our sex drive begins to decrease unwaveringly after adolescence. For women, an additional decrease is experienced with the onset of menopause and in some women, it can be quite profound. Low estrogen levels can lead to hormone changes which causes a number of different symptoms. In addition to vaginal dryness and decreased libido, hot flashes, insomnia, headaches, mood swings, anxiety, and bladder control problems can occur. Just these symptoms on a daily basis, are enough to affect sexual functions in some women. Some menopausal women find themselves losing interest in not only intercourse, but in the entire passionate, romantic or flirty side of their interactions.
Hormones and the Sexual Drive
A woman’s sex drive is tied to hormones, but in an intricate method. The female hormones, estrogen and progesterone, have less of a stimulating effect than the male hormones, which are secreted in small amounts by the ovaries. Most menstruating women feel sexiest after that time of the month when female hormones are at their lowest level. Estrogen is responsible for increasing a woman’s sexual sensations and keeping the vaginal walls, lining, and tissues lubricated. Progesterone hormones also aid in a woman’s sexual, physical health and when their levels drop, fatigue, irregular periods and other symptoms become uncomfortable. Testosterone or androgen levels are also lessened during menopause which are also the reasons why some women lose interest in sex.
Vulva Changes During and After Menopause
Because hormone levels naturally decrease during and after menopause, internal and external changes take place in our bodies. The vagina changes its shape, becoming shorter, narrower, and possible loss of pubic hair. These changes vary from woman to woman and some of these changes are barely noticeable. The acid or alkaline balance in the vagina also changes, becoming either more alkaline in consistency or less acidic, which means intercourse can make a woman sore or experience cramping. This condition is known as “atrophic vaginitis.” All is not lost for menopausal women, there are medical and organic relief for women who experience these symptoms.
Stimulation and Sex
As we age and due to our experience and maturity, most women are quite aware of what they need in a sexual relationship, how to get there! We feel more confident and open to express our sexual pleasure, especially in our 50’s than we were in our 20’s. Some women during and after menopause have fewer intense orgasms. If your sexual experience was good before menopause, then it should continue afterwards, especially if you have an open communication with your partner. Kegel exercises are also known to health strengthen the pelvic and vaginal muscles. Menopausal changes is the perfect time to explore new and different sexual experiences. Focus can be placed on intimacy touches, hugging, kissing, caressing, and other stimulating experiences, if intercourse is a little uncomfortable. Now is the time to express your continued love in newer and even more loving ways.
Trick The Mind and The Body Will Follow
A few tricks can still produce satisfying sex during menopause. These include:
- Use water based or silicone based lubricants, which comes in different scents and flavors or they can cause a tingling and warming sensation.
- Use more foreplay, which may take you longer to reach a climax, but the act of intercourse keeps the vagina happy and healthy.
- Dress up your sex appeal and self-esteem. Treat yourself to a pedicure, a manicure, and a new hairstyle. If you don’t please yourself, you can’t please anyone else.
Female physicians and scientists are reporting the benefits of continuing a healthy sexual contact for women during and after menopause. Studies have proven that sex lowers our blood pressure because it produces an antibody called immunoglobulin A, which protects the body from infections. Having sex twice a week reduces the chance of a heart attack by 50%. Sex also strengthens the pelvic muscles and it strengthens the bladder. Having a sexual orgasm, releases a hormone called oxytocin, as well as endorphins. These are the hormones which trick the brain into thinking that pain and anxiety is lessened and also allows women to feel that tingling sexual sensation.
Your Life Is Just Beginning
Remember, don’t let your menopause symptoms control you, learn how to control them for a more satisfying life. With all the benefits and satisfaction of keeping sex after menopause alive, be assured that sexual activity is life giving, and is a great pleasure to enjoy throughout our lives. Advanced methods to help women with menopause, allows women to create their own plan of action for their lives, and to put them on the path to a better hormonal mental and physical health, at any stage of their life.