While it’s certainly a ‘woman’s’ problem, there’s still no question that men will have to find a way to deal with the menopausal symptoms their partners go through.
Menopause is commonly regarded as a woman’s issue, and at its core it truly is. Men won’t have to feel the hot flashes or the migraines or the mood swings that can run rampant among women who have menopause. But while they won’t physically experience those issues themselves, there is still no way to deny that men who are in a relationship with a woman will indeed experience some challenges of their own. Menopausal symptoms can place a big strain on relationships, and it’s important to focus on learning how to manage these issues as they arise.
There are a few steps worth remembering which can help men manage menopausal symptoms and help their significant other through this difficult time. For starters, being supportive is a must. While it’s easy to get frustrated, the fact is that if you aren’t a supportive partner, the odds are good that your lack of support* will only make the moodiness a woman feels even worse.
Remember that things aren’t personal during this timeframe. The fact is that menopause causes a lot of different emotions and other issues and that – no matter how it may seem – it really is out of her control*. In fact, a majority of women report feeling guilty about their irritability and other menopausal symptoms and it’s important that you make sure they know that you aren’t taking it personally. Of course, it’s also important that you don’t take it personally.
A reduction* in sexual desire is one of the main menopausal symptoms a woman will experience, and can be one of the most frustrating for men to deal with. As a result, it’s important to have a frank, honest discussion with one another about this challenge. Whether it’s simply a reaffirmation that things aren’t personal and that she’s really just suffering from hormonal issues or a discussion of ways that the two of you can ignite some passion where it may be lacking, honesty and openness are important paths to take here.
Try to be as helpful as possible, within reason. Migraines, for instance, could require peace and quiet to get through. Insomnia may mean a sudden shift in sleeping patterns. In most cases, men are able to help lessen the effects of the menopausal symptoms by being understanding and trying to help.
That doesn’t mean that you need to completely forget about yourself. Instead, one of the big keys to dealing with women’s menopausal symptoms is often just to find an outlet. A hobby is a great way to pass time when you need to escape for a few hours, and her need for space or isolation could help give you the time to learn a new skill.
Menopause can be very difficult and place you at serious risk of being tested. But men should remember that it’s a temporary issue that will gradually sort itself out. Just remembering that is often the biggest aspect of dealing with the many different challenges that may arise when your partner goes through menopause.