The Unwanted Sex Mistakes Couples Make in the Bedroom

Sex Mistakes
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No matter how much of a “Don Juan” you consider yourself to be, the chances are good that your abilities to pleasure your partner can be improved*. While there’s no “right” way of having sex, many individuals fail to realize that simple adjustments can help ensure that they are providing the maximum possible levels of pleasure for their partners. Like any skill set, the act of sex involves techniques and strategies that can be honed and developed quickly. If you are interested in improving* your bedroom experiences, do not hesitate to keep on reading and discover the most common sex mistakes.

Sex Position Mistakes You Need To Fix For Mind Blowing Sex!

We’ve designed this guide as an introduction to five potential sex position mistakes men may be making during acts of intimacy with their partners. As these issues can be difficult to discuss, it’s quite possible that many men do not realize that they do not bring their romantic partners to the highest levels of sexual pleasures. By taking stock of these factors, men may be better able to assess and evaluate their own performance and, in the process, improve* their own sexual performance. Good luck!

Going Too Hard & Fast

While there’s definitely a time and a place for really “going at it” during sex, intimacy isn’t just about deep, rapid thrusting. The vagina responds to a variety of types of stimulation thanks to an extensive collection of sensitive nerve endings located throughout the genital region. Instead of devoting an extensive amount of time to vigorous penetration, men should ensure that they are also placing an adequate amount of attention on areas such as the clitoris and the vaginal lips, both of which can be used to help induce orgasm in women. Although women will appreciate your verve and excitement, you may be able to give them more pleasure with a bit of tactical savvy and know-how.

Sticking With One Position

Everyone likes feeling sexy, and one of the best methods for ensuring* that both men and women remain excited about physical intimacy is exploring new techniques and sexual positions. Although you may be achieving great results using one particular sexual position, the chances are good that the “thrill” of these actions may fade over time. Although it may be awkward initially, having the courage to explore new sexual positions may result in improved* sexual pleasure.

Getting Too Fancy

That being said, both men and women should remember that the most important element of happy and satisfying sex is intimacy and security. When sex gets too complex, it’s almost guaranteed to be less pleasurable for both parties. Don’t attempt to mimic the actions you’re seeing in porn – you’re almost guaranteed to leave these experiences feeling dejected and frustrated.

Letting Her Do All The Work

Although it’s a mistake to assume that your female partner only enjoys being dominated in the bedroom, it’s also equally incorrect to believe that they should be given complete control of the action. Ensure that your partner has the opportunity to feel “in charge” and as the “recipient” of pleasure. This is guaranteed to increase* pleasure and satisfaction levels in both men and women.

Many women have reported feeling empowered by the opportunity to control the tempo and actions during sexual intimacy. That being said, an equal number of women have also said that a “balanced” approach to physical intimacy yields the best possible results for them. This is something to think about, for sure.

Being Afraid To Control The Situation

If you’ve built a trusting and emotionally intimate relationship with your partner, there’s no reason why you should feel uncomfortable taking charge during sex. If there’s something that you are particularly interested in trying, don’t let your insecurities hold you back. The chances are good that your partner will be willing to embark upon new sexual adventures with you, as long as these explorations are undertaken in a loving and respectful manner.

For those who feel that their sexual relationship with their partner is lacking in quality, one of the first steps that should be taken is to engage in an active discussion with them. Many times, the quality of sex between individuals declines simply because neither party feels confident about discussing their wants or desires due to a fear of embarrassing their partner or hurting their feelings.

Certified sex therapists can also help individuals and couples who feel that their sexual behavior is damaging the overall quality of their relationship. These professionals can address a variety of issues that may be hindering sexual intimacy and, in the process, weakening the bonds of intimacy between relationship partners.

More serious issues aside, it’s important to remember that sexual intimacy is, at its very core, an act of trust and respect. Couples who are willing to take a leap and explore new levels of pleasure and excitement with one another are almost guaranteed to experience entirely new levels of joy and happiness.

6 Sex Mistakes Women Make

Sex Mistake #1: Not Initiating Sex with Your Partner

Almost every woman has committed this mistake before knowing the fact. Those ancient days of leaving sexual approach to men are over. You also need to show concern. Leaving sex ignition to your partner alone shifts a big burden to him. Don’t you need sexual satisfaction? This mistake is number one sex killer in a relationship if in case you didn’t know.

Sex Mistake #2: Worrying About What You Look Like

It’s about the right time you drew a thick line between your body shape, your makeup or any physical obsess you have. Sex requires concentration. It requires attention too. Sex comes from the mind. Therefore, if you have divided attention, chances of never achieving orgasms are high. Some physical look or shape cannot be changed, if they can, at least not during sexual intercourse. Stop worrying about what you look like and concentrate on the occasion’s business.

Sex Mistake #3: Assuming Sex is Casual for a Man

Sex is serious for men regardless of where, when and who they do it with. Therefore, if you happen to have sex with a man, know that he is serious and the best thing you can do is give your best. Men do sacrifice for sex; why not return the same seriousness?

Sex Mistake #4: Believing He’s Always Up for Sex

Men are also overwhelmed by the daily hassles of life. These daily hassles stress men and their mood for sex diminish* temporarily. Don’t find this a surprise because it happens so often. Don’t make judgments about his failure to have sex that day because you’re going to create a problem, which was not there before.

Sex Mistake #5: Not giving Him Guidance

Men’s sexual experience is straightforward. This is different from women. A woman’s sexual experience is unique to her. Do yourself a favor and ask your man to do what you want. Keeping it to yourself and wishing he did some magic* won’t help you achieve satisfaction because he doesn’t realize what make you pleasurable.

Sex Mistake #6: Getting Upset

You have not done everything in life. Some new activities are coming your way. You might not be prepared for the new things but bear in mind that your partner is going to bring them up. Still, you might not like what is coming. The best thing to handle this is that, you should be aware of the new versions of sexual life and if it will disappoint you, consider finding the most polite language to tell your partner in an open and loving way that you’re not up to the new ideas. Being open and solving thing from day one will save your sexual relationship stead of beings upset, which you might not recover from.

Top Mistakes Men Make In The Bedroom

Even the best and most experienced of men in bedroom matters make a couple of mistakes every once in a while. Most men are not even aware of the mistakes they are making in the bedroom. This is because of women, knowing how sensitive the male ego is, would rather not criticize their men in the bedroom.

Seeking the Score for Yourself

Unattached men are particularly notorious for this. Surprisingly, even attached men who seem to have lost the initial passion they once had for their women can easily slip and fall into this category.

Going too fast

This mistake is especially common. Going too fast is a mistake because it hinders proper exploration and enjoyment hence intimacy. In addition, women are known to take a longer time to climax compared to men. Therefore, if you go too fast, you risk finishing before your partner orgasms.

Too Little Foreplay

Women are not as easily aroused as men are. This boils down to science and genetics as women have much lower levels of testosterone compared to men. Therefore, foreplay is crucial. Foreplay means romancing a woman in preparation for a sexual encounter.

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Too Little Exploration of Her Body

Men tend to focus on the most commonly known erogenous zones. These are the breasts, nipples, lips, and clitoris. Nonetheless, any woman will tell you that your average woman has several more erogenous zones. Therefore, explore her body more and ask for feedback

Pursuing Your Woman Only in the Bedroom

Women love attention. Common mistake men make is paying attention to their women in the bedroom where sex is on the table. This will make her feel that all you care about is sex. Therefore, for a great sex life, romance her and shower her with attention even when sex is not on the table.

In conclusion, these are some of the most common sex mistakes made by both partners in the bedroom. The most important thing is to be aware of them and make the necessary changes, so that you can enjoy the time spent together. Being sensitive to the needs of your partner is essential, especially with regard to sexual satisfaction – you have to make sure that you are honestly communicating about your preferences and wishes.

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Expert Author : Lisiana Carter (Consumer Health Digest)

Lisiana Carter has been a freelance health writer for over ten years having written books, blogs and articles. She is the author of a number of websites and teaches people how to enter the freelance writing field.