Are You Making These Mistakes During Sex? Know How To Avoid Them!

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Men love sex. This is a statement that most men would agree with – and even a lot of women would agree with the statement too. The problem, however, is that there are many common sex mistakes men make in the bedroom without noticing them at all. Their confidence might be in the way of them noticing what they are doing wrong, or they might simply think that they are doing a great job when, in reality, they are only doing an “okay” job while having sex.

Quite a large number of women have noticed that their partners do something wrong during sex, but they are often too afraid to speak with their partners about the issues they are having since it might hurt their partner’s confidence. Communication in a relationship is vital, yet many relationships tend to fail in this particular area – which can cause frustration and less pleasurable sexual intercourse.

For men, becoming educated on simple mistakes in bed that are common amongst a lot of men can have a significant amount of benefits for them. This will help men know what they might be doing wrong while they are having sex and also help them improve* the satisfaction they are able to bring to their partner. In some cases, attending to the issues that might be silently arising in the bedroom may even boost* the pleasure the man is able to experience, so this does not only benefit their partner, but also the man himself.

Common Mistakes Men Make During Sex

Even if it seems like everything is going well for you and your partner in the bedroom, it is important to consider the fact that communication is often something that needs some work even in some healthy relationships. Thus, you may think that you are giving your partner an adequate amount of pleasure during sex, but this might not be true at all. Here we are going to look at some common sex mistakes men make while they have sex, and how you can deal with these issues so that you can become better at satisfying your partner during sexual intercourse.

No, You Do Not Know Exactly What Your Partner Wants

First we have to address the fact that a lot of men think they know exactly what their partners want. This is actually one of the most common sex mistakes men make. If you are like this, then we have some bad news for you. If you and your partner aren’t discussing what you are doing during sex, then you most likely are doing some things wrong. Men often tend to consider themselves adequate in the bedroom, but this is not always true.

It is important to talk openly about sex with your partner. Sit down with your partner and talk to them about your previous sexual encounters. Ask them what they enjoyed and be open to criticism without feeling judged. You want to improve* your skills and the way you satisfy your partner, so you should hear what they have to say and then improve* on the parts that they are not enjoying or think you are lacking.

No, The Bedroom Is Not The Only Place For Sexual Activities

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Another problem that we have to address is the fact that a lot of men tend to activate their sexual side when they enter the bedroom, but out of the bedroom, they do not pay attention to the sexual desires and needs of their partner. Thinking that sex may only happen in the bedroom could well be amongst the most deadly mistakes men make in bed. If you are like this, then you should know that this is one of the biggest mistakes you are making. Sex does not always have to be limited to your bedroom.

WebMD explains that foreplay is very important for sexual intercourse, especially when it comes to women. Thus, you should not initiate your sexual activities only when you and your partner gets into bed, but start earlier in the day. There are many ways you can do some foreplay before you and your partner goes to bed. Look at her in a flirty way, touch her whenever you walk past her, grab her unexpectedly and kiss her.

No, Sex Should Not Be The Same Every Time

When you and your partner have been together for some time, then things might start to get into a stage where you get so used to doing certain things that they become repetitive. Repetitive equals boring – your partner wants you to surprise her and she wants you to be unpredictable instead of repeating the same activities day after day.

The same goes for sex. Prevention reports that being together for a significant period of time does not necessarily mean you and your partner’s sex life have to become boring and predictable. There are many ways in which you can “spice it up”. Try to experiment with some different sex moves than the ones you are used to, or rent out a hotel room and take your partner there for a steamy session. Simply use your imagination and you would be surprised at just how many ideas you can come up with.

Not Attending To Sex-Related Problems

Apart from the mistakes guys make in bed we shared here, we also want to note that it is important to get adequate treatment for any potential sexual issues you are suffering from. This is quite a sensitive area as a lot of men who do suffer from common sexual health conditions are too afraid to visit a doctor as they do not want to discuss their problems with their doctor, and they might also be too embarrassed to talk about the problem openly. The fact is, millions of men suffer from sexual problems and many of them have received successful treatment and regained their abilities to perform well during sex. All it takes is a visit to your doctor to diagnose the problem. Thereafter appropriate treatment measures can be provided to you.

According to Cleveland Clinic, the sexual health problems that are most often diagnosed in men includes erectile problems and ejaculatory issues. If you cannot get an erection or your erections are weak, you cannot properly penetrate your partner and satisfaction will be on the low side. If you ejaculate too soon, then you won’t be able to satisfy your partner as the mood may be completely turned upside down once you ejaculate. If you cannot ejaculate, it can make things very awkward when you satisfy your partner, but have to spend a significant amount of time trying to ejaculate afterwards. All of these issues can be treated successfully, but you need to pay a visit to your doctor to identify what may be causing the problems before you can get rid of them.

What are the sex mistakes to be avoided?

One of the most important sex mistakes to be avoided is related to the duration of the foreplay. It is essential to understand and remember that women need a longer period of time to become aroused, as opposed to men. You need to caress your partner, kiss her and make her feel sexy. This will create a connection between the two of you and the sex will be more enjoyable. You should also try to openly communicate about the things that she wants to do; no one is a mind reader and it would be a huge mistake to assume that she likes certain things without actually knowing if that is true. Last, but not least, you have to keep in mind that mental stimulation is just as important as the physical one. Engage in her fantasies together and you will definitely have a lot of fun.

Conclusion

There are quite a large number of common sex mistakes men make, and they often do not notice it – sometimes not even in the slightest bit. This can be unpleasant not only for the man’s partner, but also for the man as the more pleasure he is able to bring his partner, the better he will feel about himself. There is also the benefit of experiencing more pleasure when his partner is thoroughly satisfied. In this post, we looked at some common mistakes that men tend to make in the bedroom, and we discussed how men can avoid these particular problems to help them perform better.

References

http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/sex-why-foreplay-matters-especially-for-women
https://www.prevention.com/sex/how-sex-lives-change-over-time
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/sexual-dysfunction-in-males
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Expert Author : Mark Simms (Consumer Health Digest)

Mark Simms is a prolific freelance health and beauty writer, independent researcher with a long history and expertise of providing reliable and relatable health content for magazines, newsletters, websites including blogs and journals. He also enjoy exploring men’s and women’s health category writing articles about sex and relationships, product review and providing information on sexual health.