Success. If you want it, you have to be willing to make mistakes. When the mistakes happen, learn from them. To learn from your mistakes, you have to be willing to take a cold, hard look at what you could do differently – what you can learn from it.
You Can’t Be Successful Without Taking Risks
You have to put yourself out there, try different things, and risk failing at it. It’s the way to reach success. You can’t play it safe and expect to be the best at what do. It doesn’t work that way. If you play it safe, you hold yourself back from reaching the heights you can reach.
Realize Mistakes Are A Part Of The Process
When you come to the understanding that mistakes are a part of growing and succeeding, they fall into “part of the plan”. This doesn’t mean they aren’t uncomfortable to go through.
Putting everything you have into something and then having it fail feels awful. Not only do you feel as if you’ve wasted your time, effort or money, sometimes you feel as if you’re a failure.
How To Work Through The Feelings That Come Up From Failing So You Can Move Forward
People don’t generally like looking at something that’s uncomfortable. In fact, they’ll do just about anything not to.
So how do you gain the knowledge from your mistakes, while at the same time letting go of any emotions associated with it? When you have a process in place that helps get rid of any emotional baggage attached to your mistakes, it’s much easier to do.
Some Steps To Have In Place:
1. Have A Strong Support* System – People who believe in you. These are the people who’re there when you feel discouraged or stuck.
It helps having friends, family members, or colleagues who know you have what it takes to reach your goals. By having a strong support* system, you have people who can give you a balance perspective when things go wrong.
2. Have tools or practices that help you move through feelings that come up when you do have a setback.
3. Keep a list of what you’re accomplishing along the way. List the progress and little victories you’re making. It helps balance the down times or setbacks and helps you keep a positive outlook.
When you write down what’s going well, it brings them more into your awareness and helps inspire you.
One Way To Get Rid Of Emotions That Come Up When You Make Mistakes
When strong feelings come up over failures or mistakes, the last thing you want to do is ignore them or pretend they don’t exist. They do exist and they’re valuable input for you.
Lower The Intensity Of Your Emotions To Be More Effective
One of the best ways I’ve discovered to lower the intensity of emotions and completely move them out of your system is by using EFT, or the Emotional Freedom Technique. I use EFT with my clients and in my own life to move through challenges.
By using EFT, the challenges are resolved much more quickly and with more ease*. By using EFT, or “tapping” as it’s referred to, you let go of intense emotions and come into a state of calm.
When you aren’t dealing with strong emotions, your brain works more efficiently. You’re able to see the takeaways from the situation. It’s then easier to come up with new strategies on how to proceed.
EFT Calms The Part Of The Brain Responsible For The Feelings Of Fear
EFT has been proven* to calm the amygdala. This is the part of your brain responsible for survival. Fear is one of the strong emotions generated and stored in the amygdala. If something’s uncomfortable or feels threatening, like taking action after a mistake, there’s a certain degree of fear.
When “survival mode” kicks in, your brain will cause you to do whatever it takes to avoid it. This means if a mistake or failure you’ve endured feels intense, it’s perceived as a threat and you won’t be able to objectively look at it. You’ll procrastinate, avoid coming to a decision, or worse, do nothing at all.
By using EFT, you’re calming that part of your brain so you can learn from your mistakes and come to a concrete decision on how to proceed.
EFT Is Easy To Learn
EFT is a technique that can be learned by anyone. Once you learn it, there are endless uses for it. Just a few uses EFT has been successfully used for include:
These are just some of the challenges you can use EFT with. While it’s an easy to learn process, for deeply held issues or traumas, it’s best to work with a professional when working on them.
By working with an outside person who’s experienced with EFT you’ll have quicker and more successful results. This is because, when it’s a particularly stressful past emotional experience, an outside person can be more objective and help you get to the core of the issue.
Other Ways To Feel Calmer When Addressing Past Mistakes
Besides EFT, other ways to work through strong emotions associated with past mistakes include:
1. Journaling – Many people use writing as a way to explore and express their emotions. The act of thinking about an experience and then expressing your emotions around it helps to organize your thoughts. In this way, you’re giving meaning to a difficult or traumatic experience, which for some people, helps regulate the emotions.
2. Talking it out with a trusted friend or therapist. It helps to be able to verbalize how we feel. When you can “get it out” and be heard, you can release some of the depth or intensity of how you feel.
Set Yourself Up For Success – Commit To Letting Go Of Emotions And Judgments About Your Past Mistakes
When you commit to working through feelings or judgments you have because of past mistakes, you have the ability to let go of the hold they have over you.
By doing so, you’re taking control* of your life and you’re setting yourself up for success. Decide to empower yourself by deciding you’ll let go of any emotional attachment you have to past disappointments or mistakes.
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