Updated: 2019, Jul 30

Mindfulness – How Does It Support A Profound Sense Of Well-Being?

Mindfulness – How Does It Support A Profound Sense Of Well-Being?

In a world where we are bombarded with “bigger, faster, better” it’s not surprising that we can become fixated on the idea of self-improvement, and fooled by the belief that we need to be “better” in order to be happy, healthy, successful, and loved.

Let’s face it; most of us are familiar with the common notion that we should improve ourselves in some way. Perhaps, we have tried countless ways to change ourselves through diet, exercise, therapies, and achievements – or by practicing things like yoga, mindfulness and meditation.

In fact, this was the reason I was drawn to the practice of mindfulness and meditation, in the first place.

As a recovering “self-improvement junkie” myself, I too believed that notion if I just became better “in some way” then I would no longer have to experience the suffering that lies beneath my own worries, fears and judgments of who I am, and my place in the present day world.

Therefore, I have recently discovered just how detrimental this notion “self-improvement” can be towards experiencing true personal health & wellness, and how it can be just another way of deflecting the painful feelings that arise from the fear of not being good, enough – not having, enough – or simply, not be worthy, enough.

Please don’t get me wrong, I do believe in the growth and inner work. However, how can we learn about ourselves and grow without the desire to be any better than who or what we are in this moment?

Explore how the “Seven Attitudinal Qualities of Mindfulness” in the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) program developed by Jon Kabat-Zinn in 1979 at the University of Massachusetts Center for Mindfulness, can help you cultivate the feelings of betterment about yourself, right now – just as you are.

Seven Attitudinal Qualities of Mindfulness

Beginners Mind

1.Beginner’s Mind – We don’t realize that most of the time we see ourselves only through the eyes of our past experiences and habitual emotional patterns that stand in our way of discovering something new about ourselves.

Beginner’s mind allows you to see yourself beyond self-limiting perceptions.

Think about it…*

Have you ever said, “This is just who I am” as a way to deflect from an opportunity to change?

What if you could see yourself with fresh new eyes and expand your self-view beyond who you think you are?

How would cultivating this beginner’s mind support you in overcoming obstacles that may be standing in your way of greater self-discovery?

Take a moment now to explore what a beginner’s mind feels like in your physical, mental, and emotional body. Get to know this quality more intimately, and let it show you a world of new possibilities.

2. Non-Judging – People are misled by the belief that self-judgment and harsh criticism are an effective way to motivate one’s personal change or growth. We tend to unnaturally beat ourselves into submission every time we mess up.

A mind free of judgmental criticisms will allow us space to make mistakes, and take chances.

Think about it…*

How often do you talk to yourself in a judgmental tone, especially when it comes towards changing, or making a mistake?

What if you could meet yourself with kindness & compassion, instead?

How would cultivating this non-judging mind impact your ability to change, especially when times get tough?

Take a moment now to explore what a mind free of judgement feels like in your physical, mental, and emotional body. Get to know this quality more intimately, and let it teach you the power of loving-kindness & compassion.

Patience

3. Patience – It is of no surprise that many people live in a world of instant gratification, and suffer from the mentality of “I WANT (fill in the blank) NOW” and as a result of which, lack the patience and dedication needed to experience change within themselves that may happen over time. Patience; allows for life to unfold – in its own time.

Think about it…*

Do you become disheartened when you believe things aren’t progressing fast enough?

What if there was no timeline when it comes to getting what you want? What if every step you took was infused with patience?

How would cultivating this quality of patience change the way you gauge your success and level of enjoyment at this moment?

Take a moment now to explore what patience feels like in your physical, mental, and emotional body, and let it teach you how to slow down when you are fast forwarding your life ahead.

4. Non-Striving – Daily we are bombarded with the message that happiness comes from something external. So, it is no wonder why most of us are caught in a constant cycle of striving, only to feel unsatisfied or unfulfilled at the end of the day.

Non-striving is a quality of mind that inspires us to move forward and grow while appreciating everything we have right now.

Think about it…*

How much of your happiness is dependent on external stimuli?

What if your happiness didn’t depend on these external things?

What if whatever it is that you are striving towards was not the driving force of why you are doing what you are doing?

How would cultivating this quality of non-striving support you in feeling better about your life right now, just as it is?

Take a moment now to explore what non-striving feels like in your physical, mental and emotional body, and let show you how to access joy that is experienced from within.

Acceptance

5. Acceptance – Threads of disapproval are often interwoven into the belief of self-improvement. Self-acceptance allows for approval of the person who you are, no matter what you believe is wrong with you.

Think about it…*

Do you ever wish you could just get rid of a certain quality, trait, or habit you possess?

What if you could accept yourself fully just as you are in this moment?

How would cultivating this quality of acceptance support you in feeling better about yourself right now?

Take a moment now to explore what self-acceptance feels like in your physical, mental and emotional body, and let it teach you how to be at peace with yourself, just as you are.

6. Letting Go – Our energy and resources become drained when we are preoccupied with the desire to improve, change, or to constantly try to fix ourselves. The action of “letting go” allows for the space needed to invite new ideas into our lives, and the wisdom to let old things go.

Think about it…*

When it comes to the desire to improve, is there something in your life right now that you are pre-occupied with?

How much time, energy and recourses is it taking from you?

What if you could let go of it even just for a minute?

How would cultivating this quality of letting go support you in having enough space to move forward?

Take a moment now to explore what letting go feels like in your physical, mental and emotional body, and let it teach you how to be free.

Trust Yourself

7. Trust – It is easy to forget about our own intrinsic goodness and wisdom that is here for us in every moment. Trust allows for the confidence that you are fundamentally good no matter what.

Think about it…*

Is fear or insecurity standing in your way of experiencing well-being in this moment?

What if you could trust that no matter what you did or who you are, you are perfectly okay and fundamentally good?

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How would this cultivating this quality change your relationship towards yourself and what you think you could do?

Take a moment now to explore what trust feels in your physical, mental and emotional body, and let it show you how to be confident, without improving a thing.

Mindfulness is not a quite fix, nor will it get rid of all our insecurities and worries about who we think we are and our place in the world overnight.

However, by intentionally working with and cultivating the qualities of mindfulness such as; beginner’s mind, non-judging, patience, non-striving, acceptance, letting go and trust, we can learn step out of the hamster wheel of self-improvement and into a world of wholeness and completeness, standing right where we are.

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Brandi Matheson

With over twelve years' experience in the mental health field, Brandi has a deep understanding and compassion for human suffering. Over

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