Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder, or ADD / ADDHD as it is called, is a very common disorder in children, and it has become fairly common and is well understood by people nowadays. However, people tend to think of this disorder only as it applies to children, and not adults. ADHD can develop in adulthood, and even though a lot of children grow out of it, many times, the children with ADHD turn into adults with ADD or ADHD, but don’t get the same type of allowances that people gave them as children. Adults are expected to shake it off – be mature and responsible, and ADHD just doesn’t fit the profile!
Since there are so many adults out there who do have ADHD, it is becoming more recognized these days, but we still have a long way to go when it comes to adult ADD / ADHD. If you are an adult who suffers from this disorder, and you have been finding it hard to reach a healthy balance between embracing your symptoms and curbing them, don’t worry; there is one simple way to knowing when to keep going and when to quit – body language.
When an adult with ADHD is interacting with other people, they can talk more, be more fidgety or distracted, and more forgetful than any other person in the room. Realizing this usually causes the person with the ADHD to feel embarrassed, ashamed and isolated, but there is really no need to feel this way. You are not inferior to those around you and you do not have to feel insecure about your ADHD symptoms. All you have to do is read the body language of the people around you when you are interacting with them, and make sure that you are not allowing your symptoms to dictate how you are interacting with others.
For example, when you are talking to someone, and you notice that they start to get fidgety, this may mean that they need to leave, or that they want a turn to talk. People with ADHD tend to talk too much, without realizing that these signals are being used by other people as a hint that they have heard enough on the subject. Remind yourself before heading into a conversation that you need to remember to read body language.
One thing that adults with ADHD suffer from is forgetfulness. This one is not always avoidable, because the only thing you have to depend on for help in this area is your memory and other peoples’ memories. If they are as forgetful as you are, then you won’t find much help there! What you can do for yourself here, is overdo it when it comes to reminding yourself of things. Never make the mistake of thinking that just 1 type of reminder will be enough; you may need several before you actually get around to doing what you need to do.
You can try keeping a piece of paper and a pen in your pocket at all times, to write down anything that comes to mind. Forget the palm pilots and daytimers – any seasoned ADHD adult will know that they will never remember where these items are anyways, so it is no use to buy one! When you are away from home, you can also call home as soon as you think of something you need to do, and leave a message for yourself. You can also ask a few different people to remind you of whatever it is you need to do.