Year after year, time after time, you try one program after another, diets, workout programs, cleansing and fasting, holding yourself prisoner to the plan for 30 or 60 days, maybe even longer to achieve the results you are dreaming of.
Then something happens to you, no matter how big or small your results are, as the program comes to an end or maybe even before, if it proved to just be too much for you to handle, you just wind up right back where you started with your old habits creeping back in. Before you know it, all the results of your hard work have disappeared, and often you end up worse off than where you started.
Not only has the weight found its way back around your hips, belly, and thighs, but your self-esteem is crushed, your confidence and motivation drained. You have bottomed out on the physical and emotional roller coaster that had you on a high celebrating your success just a few months earlier.
Before you know it, you find yourself desperately seeking new answers, looking for the next fad diet, the next fitness program that promises magical results. You dive right back in, fully committed to lasting change this time, certain that this is going to be on the that changes your life, gives you back your body confidence, rebuilds your self-esteem, allows you to have more energy and improve* your health.
If this sounds all too familiar to you, the good news is that there is an answer to break free of this never-ending cycle. You see your nutrition and fitness habits, really have nothing to do with your willpower or your commitment when it really comes down to it. Sure, those things play a small part, but there is something bigger, something that is invisible to you, controlling your every decision that you are ignoring.
Break the Cycle
In the above scenario, the cyclical pattern you have been stuck in, you are asking the wrong question. You keep asking HOW to lose* the weight, HOW to get in better shape, HOW to have more energy, HOW to improve* your health. The problem is that the answers don’t initially lie in HOW. As humans we are trained to ask this question for everything, HOW, HOW, HOW, HOW, HOW.
The question that we need to ask before we even consider the HOW is WHY! You see when you ask only HOW you have no emotional connection to the process that you are committing. Your only reason to follow the program you chose is because someone else said that it works and you are choosing to follow it just long enough to experience the results you set forth in your mind, to drop 30 pounds, fit in a smaller pair of jeans, get in perfect shape for your wedding day, lose* the baby weight, get your cholesterol or blood pressure down to where the doctor says it should be.
The problem here is that you have not connected with the real reason that you have a desire to achieve this goal, leaving it at the end of the day very insignificant in the importance of your life.
For example, if you are just committed to losing the weight so you can fit in smaller jeans and then one of your children gets sick or you have a deadline to meet at work, you suddenly get distracted and your goal goes on the backburner, allowing you to make excuses as to why you can’t follow the program that told you HOW to reach your goal.
But, what if you we were to look at your goal a little deeper and really dissect this question of WHY? What we find is that when we dig deep below the surface level and go vertical in the analysis of our goals, we will find a much deeper-rooted meaning that makes the goal a much greater priority in our lives. This is the magic* in creating sustainable results in our lives.
Analyzing the WHY
Let’s go through an example of the weight loss* to help you see the picture. Initially we started off with a goal but never went deeper.
GOAL: Losing weight to fit into a smaller pair of jeans
We now ask you WHY?
To look sexy
To improve* my self confidence
So my partner thinks I am more attractive and I am more open to physical affection in our relationship
To improve* my marriage and decrease* the worry that my partner will look at other people or find someone else
I want to have a strong relationship with my partner, where I feel loved, confident and there is physical affection
So we can have a strong marriage and set a good example for our children of what an healthy relationship looks like and my children can learn to love and be proud of their own bodies for exactly who they are and treat* themselves with respect.
We could continue to go on and on here, but you can see how what started out as a question of HOW can I lose* a little bit of weight to fit into a pair of jeans turned into a deeply rooted emotional desire to have body confidence, a better physical relationship with your partner, a strong marriage and to show your children the importance of loving your body exactly as you are and treating it with respect.
The True Impact
Now this is where the magic* happens. When you recognize what is truly on the line and the impact that your old patterns are having on your body and your family it changes the entire dynamic of the situation.
You are no longer looking at HOW to lose* weight and get in the pair of jeans. You are now looking at WHY you want to make healthy decisions each and every day that respects your body and shows your family the importance of these healthy lifestyle habits.
When other commitments pop up in your day, you suddenly have the ability to prioritize your healthy lifestyle habits, instead of brushing them to the side and making excuses for why you don’t have time.
The next time you are looking to commit to anything in your life, take a few moments to truly analyze the WHY and write it down. Going vertical into our deep-seated emotional level of why we want to change something in our life has staying power.
This staying power of respecting your body has endless benefits from achieving and maintaining your ideal body, setting a great example for your family, increasing* your self-esteem and body confidence, building a strong physical and emotional relationship with your partner, saving you wasted time and money of chasing the next HOW, and keeping you off the emotional roller coaster associated with all of these things.
So before your next commitment, ask yourself WHY!
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