Updated: 2019, Jul 24

Confidence Through Depression – By Steve Whyte

Confidence Through Depression – By Steve Whyte

Having depression can definitely have a huge knock on your confidence in yourself, your ability to be trusted and to carry out normal day-to-day tasks. It’s important for us to not forget who we are when negative experiences arise and for us to still feed our true identity behind the condition. The most fundamental manifestation of positive thinking in our daily lives is the concept of self-confidence.

A positive self-image is integral to living a healthy life. Studies have shown that people who have confidence in themselves are better able to solve problems, make decisions, take risks, assert themselves, and work towards personal goals. They have healthier and stronger relationships with others.

This allows them to lead and enjoy healthier, more productive, and more fulfilling lives. Most people have a bad day, or feel blue, from time to time. However, people who suffer from low self-confidence feel bad about themselves most, or all, of the time. These feelings prevent them from life enjoyment, making the most of their lives and having healthy relationships with others.

This very simple realization changed everything for me. I noticed that I was beating down my self-image and in the process, falling out of love with myself. In addition, people with a poor self-image may be less likely to take good care of, or treat themselves well. Also, low self-confidence often leads to stress and anxiety, which can dramatically affect your physical and mental health further.

Is your glass half-empty or half-full? How you answer this age-old question about positive thinking may reflect your outlook on life, your attitude toward yourself, and whether you’re optimistic or pessimistic. I’d like to answer saying ‘I’m thankful I have a glass, period’.

In fact, some studies show that these personality traits, optimism and pessimism, can affect many areas of your health and well-being. Positive thinking also is a key part of effective stress management. Positive thinking doesn’t mean that you keep your head in the sand and ignore your condition, because we know depression is very real and painful. It just means that you approach the unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way.

More Positive

Here are 3 top tips to help you to remain positive in seasons of depression:

1. Surround Yourself with Positive People. Happiness is contagious, and a positive circle can do so many good things for your daily well-being. Being around others who are optimistic can be a great strength for us in our low points in life.

2. Shape your in-vironment by Shaping your Environment. Your outside world does affect your inner world. Our homes should be the one place that provides calm and peace. It is always useful to create a type of sanctuary within our homes to keep up feeling comfort in the midst of our pain. You could do this by sticking some positive affirmations on your walls, having a quiet corner perhaps with candles and positive books, or even just removing all negative influences from our home.

3. Reprogram Your Mind. Habits are so easy to pick up and often our negative self talk, constant engagement with negative media and even sad songs force us to subconsciously feel low. Refill your home with positive books, positive feel good music, inspiring TV shows. You’ll be surprised at the difference it will make.

While these tips do help, they are not a cure. Often in life we need stepping stones to get to the level of care, freedom and breakthrough that we desire. These can be your first steps. Life is a series of steps which lead to different destinations. The roads will often be bumpy, but if you plan your route and equip yourself with the right mindset, you’ll be ready for the storms when they come.

Right Mindset

Think positively and expect only favorable results and situations, even if your current circumstances are not as you wish them to be. In time, your mental attitude will affect your life and circumstances and change them accordingly. If you cannot change what happens in your life, at least change how you feel about what happens. Life doesn’t have to end because you are depressed. Life is what you make it and just because we have an issue, it does not mean that we cannot make a happy, healthy and productive life. Do not let anyone try to fool you into thinking you are any less of a person because of your mental state.

Everyone carries flaws, but the trick is to choose to see perfection only. There is a reason behind everything and when we train our minds to find peace in knowing that we do not always see the bigger picture, each circumstance becomes more tolerable. We must focus on our positive qualities given to us from the heavens above and use them to better ourselves and people around us. Do not say you cannot stay strong, because you can. Everyone carries an inner beauty, strength and intelligence within, just waiting to come out and flourish for the world to see.

In the hardest years of my life while I was having seizure after seizure with very little time to recover, I had one goal in mind; to move forward in life, to experience a new beginning, living life to my potential and prove to the rest of the world that I am just like anyone else. I wanted to prove that I could accomplish my goals and dreams with a positive perspective of life if I believed. So can you.

One of the first things I had to do was accept it. I had to get rid of all denial and accept that my lifestyle had to change for my own good. We cannot change the fact, but failure to live in denial helps with the process towards healing. It’s not healthy to be in denial. I did that for too many years. I have the disorder, it is a part of me and now I put all of my energy into learning to cope and live with it in a positive way until my healing comes.

I am not going to waste my energy pitying myself and you shouldn’t either. This does not mean that you shouldn’t care, just that you are larger than the disorder. We cannot go back in time and undo that first awareness of the pain. What we can do is focus on now (the present). Say to yourself, ‘Ok, what can I do now to strengthen myself as a person and use my strength and positive qualities to move on in life to accomplish my goals and dreams?’.

If you do not give up and you keep trying to reach for those stars, one day you will have them right in the palm of your hands and then you can say with tears in your eyes I kept trying, I did not give up, I did it and I am still standing.

This is not how your story ends;

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Steve Whyte

12x Author of #TheLoveManual | #Unashamed et al. | Speaker | Founder of Genius Brand Management & Better Days Mental Health Advocacy |

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