Inner peace
and balance are of great importance in everyone’s
life. They are highly valued by most people, though
really few possess them. Yet, everyone can develop them,
some more some less.
What do inner peace and inner balance mean? They mean
the presence of self control and discipline and the
ability not to let outside events influence our emotions,
actions and reactions. Their presence mean the possession
of common sense and good judgment, and of not letting
the outside world shake our inner world. |
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How many times have you
been overwhelmed by emotions, lost your temper and got angry
or impatient? How many times have regretted about your reactions
or attitude?
Do you shout at your children, spouse, co-workers or employees?
Do you get angry with them? Are you happy with this situation?
Do you let your work, the weather, other people behavior
and attitude, the movies or the newspapers influence the
way you feel and think. Do outside events distract your
mind and make you think about them, instead of what you
choose to think about? This is loss of inner balance and
lack of inner peace.
Lack of inner balance causes fluctuations of the emotions,
lack of decisiveness and wasting time on unnecessary thoughts,
emotions and actions. So what is the remedy?
The moments immediately after awakening are important, and
influence the mood of the day. These moments have to be
used correctly.
After waking up in the morning, instead of thinking about
the difficulties or tasks that are awaiting you, smile and
tell yourself what a wonderful day your are going to have.
Think about the pleasant things you are going to do or experience,
not the about the difficulties. Repeat to yourself several
times that today you are going to maintain inner balance,
common sense and peace of mind.
From the moment you get up until you go to sleep at night
try to maintain some detachment. This does not mean being
indifferent or uncaring. It means not reacting immediately
to situations, words, emotions or thoughts. It might not
be so easy, but if you persevere you will win. Take a few
deep breaths or count to 10 before acting. This will to
some extent calm you down.
If someone tells you something that you do not like hearing,
instead of getting insulted or retorting in anger, hold
and delay your reaction. I do not mean fret and boil inside
and show nothing outside. This is not healthy. I mean look
at the incident in a broader perspective. Is what the other
person saying really important? Why do his words mean so
much to you? Maybe he is right, and it would be wise to
heed his words and opinion, instead of reacting in anger?
Always remember that if you descend into a valley, but keep
walking forward, you will arrive to a point where you will
start climbing up. No matter what happens, remember that
there is always a way out. After every fall there is rising
up again. This knowledge will help you restore your inner
peace and balance, when you encounter difficulties and obstacles.
Inner peace and balance are states of mind. Developing inner
strength and the ability to make the mind quiet through
concentration exercises, meditation, detachment, visualization
or affirmations, will take you a long way toward maintaining
inner balance and peace. |
